Months ago, i had a problem with the word friendship. Here you can read http://benangruwet.blogspot.com/2007_01_01_archive.html. Then it strikes my head. Be logic, za. Calm down. Look back into yourself. Have you been a good one to your friend? Do you maintain your friendship in the way you want it from your friend? Have you treat them in the way you want to be treated the same?
Don't expect things you haven't give. Be rational. Aware that we all now work and may not have time to contact each other. We may forget. I do forget. But that doesn't meant that we are loosing friendship.
Yes some friends are suck! You may learn few things. I do.
I don't want this to go longer and make things worse. I will just directly say what i want to say. Yesterday i though it's merely a misunderstanding. But it's normal for friends even for years. Think deeper. Do we really know each other so well? No. And I never thought that i would blog it one day. But then it appears to be a must since this problem arouse and i do care about our friendship and doesn't want this misunderstanding continues.
It was my company villa. when i invite my friend, i should confirm the villa manager. And i invite you. And trust me on that. You smsed me more than 3 times. Was not that too much? So in your last sms, i said "ok, i will confirm it again to the manager" for you to feel sure and satisfied! What did i get? You said " i have to be professional. i can't just canceled my appointment with students" GOSH! i was shocked. You said previously that no matter what, you're still going since you already took a leave, canceled all lessons and made your mind to go to Bali. I don't want to argue and loose you as a friend so i left you to calm down and said "ok, up to you. if you wanna come, welcome." You lose your mood, ok. But who to blame, dear?
Another one is.. do you remember you once said where we're together in Er's room "im going to bali every year, with or without you, gals." we were planning to go to bali in july and you couldn't join. So there we went. And i'm asking now.. why do you feel abandoned, not invited for the trip we had last july?
And for Er's as centre of information. Its normal since she's the one who everyone can talk to. Realizing you don't get along well with Lus and Yul. And why Er again? She is the middle person, if you understand what i'm saying. She always, well mostly, organized all of our gathering. So its like an unwritten rule or agreement to make her as a headquarter. Where else we ever gather? Only in her house, rite? So don't feel like she is special or we treat her differently.
Last thing.. its not that we "mengadu" to each other. But friendship is like that. Misunderstanding needs to be fixed. Its bcoz WE CARE.
Please don't ruin it or mix it with the other problems you have with family or another bad experience with other friend. It might bcoz things happen in the same time. Calm your brain and emotion. Bad words would hurt your friends whose not involved. You may never notice but they remember.
About family.. its true that in the end, they are all we have. Glad that you finally understand it. I've gone to the process, and i love my family better. They are not perfect, but hey.. they are my family. I do.. no, we all do have our own family problems. You are not alone.
I hope you get what i mean, and understand. There's nothing wrong with our friendship now. We only need to talk, ask and share. To avoid misunderstanding and disappointments.
Love you
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